If you have the honour of being asked to be someone’s best man then you should feel really proud. But it is a duty that should be taken seriously as there are many important responsibilities that fall on you as the best man. For example making sure the groom gets to the church on time! The best man is usually someone close to the groom – a brother or very close friend, often a friend since childhood – and as such his involvement with the wedding, and his support of the marriage, is really important to the bride and groom. The groom could be nervous on the day of his wedding, wanting like the bride that everything goes perfect. The best man needs to assure him that that will happen!
During the hectic, often stressful, run up to the wedding, the best man will be helping out in all sorts of ways – running errands, acting as a confidant to the groom, smoothing over family frictions and bolstering the groom’s confidence ready for the big day.
A great best man needs to be cheerful, positive and reliable. He also needs to be pro-marriage and happy relationships – no groom wants a best man who moans about his own girlfriend or wife the whole time! Has anyone seen “Ghost’s of Girlfriends Past” ? – that explains why you shouldn’t have a best man who is anti-marriage!
Best man duties usually include:
Looking after the rings and presenting them at just the right moment during the ceremony. Loved by makers of comedy programmes, this task seems to provide lots of opportunities for mishap. A great best man must be reliable and responsible – no lost rings, please! That would probably end your friendship with the groom.
Making a speech that won’t end in a very quick divorce. The best man’s speech is traditionally a chance to make a bit of fun of the groom’s past, but no bride wants to listen to a litany of sexual exploits – and any mention of ex-girlfriends is a complete no no. How would you like it if your best man starting airing all your dirty linen in public? I’m sure you wouldn’t be best pleased!
Organising the wedding presents as they arrive, finding a room to store the wedding presents and making sure they are safe for the duration of the day. Obviously, this needs to be done by someone who hasn’t been propping up the bar all morning!
Among other things, the best man will need to keep the bridesmaid gifts and usher gift to hand for the groom to give out during the speech, make sure the bride and groom get the wedding presents before they leave the reception, and be supportive and cheerful all day.
As you can see, a great best man is an essential part of the proceedings and can help to make the wedding go smoothly in lots of ways.
Groom Gifts
As best man, one way you can be really great is to buy the groom a fantastic personalised gift. Think about your friend’s likes and dislikes before choosing, so the groom gift is truly special. Engraved groom gifts are a good choice – if he enjoys a cigarette or cigar then how about an engraved Zippo lighter? Or perhaps a personalised hip flask? The groom is bound to have chosen a special personalised gift for you, so don’t be outdone!
As the groom it is your duty to get your best man a great gift for all his help and support, make sure he knows how valuable he is to you and how you probably would not have made it down the aisle without him. A simple gift to give your best man, along with other presents (you’ll see why in a second) – is an engraved pen. Now I know what you are thinking …. why would I get my best man a personalised pen. Well it’s quite simple, everyone needs a pen. You will be giving your best man something that he will always use, therefore reminding him that you really needed him on your special day. So although an engraved pen is a simple gift…. it’s a gift that has real impact!
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